pregnancy & birth are transformational / difficult / magical / spiritual times, no matter what the outcome. birth, like many other things, has been co-opted by a capitalist system and that pregnant people who choose to carry to term have been sneakily denied the right to give birth in a way that honors the experience, and have been denied the right to give birth to their self as a new person & parent. for most of us, our culture & community is not set up to help us be our best selves during pregnancy & birth, and to parent to the best of our abilities. it’s really, really, really hard to be a pregnant person.
i have no problem with people choosing to use whatever technologies and medications they need to achieve the birth they want. i gladly support pregnant people at home, in birth centers, & in hospitals.
i believe the roll of a doula or birth companion is to be a witness to the experience and to hold space for whatever happens (for the pregnant person & whoever else is part of the experience). a doula can help prepare the pregnant person with education & answering questions. the doula may be able to provide some basic comfort measures. during the labor / birth / postpartum the doula can help create a container in which the pregnant person is able to tap into their own strength, go through the experience in their own way & in their own time, ask for what is needed, & control the space. the energy of the doula should not be the loudest energy in the room. the doula can't eliminate the pain or fix anything.
i believe being a doula or birth companion is a great honor. i believe that ideally, we would receive this kind of support & care from our families / communities, and the only reason we have to create a business around this work is because of our warped social set-up. i believe i am not necessarily the birth companion for everyone, but am happy to walk this journey with you if it feels like a beautiful match.
pregnancy & birth services include:
emotional, educational, physical, & spiritual support during all the phases of your pregnancy and all possible outcomes
three meetings during pregnancy (1.5 hours each) to get to know each other, learn about your hopes & vision for your labor & birth, create a birth plan, talk about what happens during labor & birth, practice meditations or other relaxation techniques, etc. your partner is welcome to attend these as well (and more meetings can be scheduled if desired!)
weekly text check-in to chat about where you’re at emotionally / mentally / physically
24/7 on-call +/- 2 weeks from your estimated due date
continuous, in-person support from active labor (or whenever you need me!) through 1-2 hours postpartum (regardless if your labor is 4 hours or 24 hours!)
one postpartum visit (1-2 hours) to process the birth, write the birth story, etc.